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Your partner dancing with somone else

Your partner dancing with somone else

by Jeff

(Paramount, CA.)


Is it normal for your partner to want to dance with someone else just to dance? Or does that seem disrespectful or inappropriate?

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Apr 13, 2012 This is VERY normal NEW

by: Ria

I am a Salsa Instructor. Please rest assured that it is perfectly normal for your partner to want to dance with other people as well as you. Indeed this is how we learn Salsa.

We rotate partners in lessons and freestyle because everyone leads and follows differently. It could lead you and your partner into a false sense of security thinking you can lead/follow a move properly if you’ve only danced it with your partner. The real test is to try it on other people who perhaps were in a different class. That way you’ll REALLY know if you’re leading/following correctly.

If we dance with only one partner we become too used to the way they move/what they’re going to lead etc. By changing it improves us as dancers and shows us what we need to work on to improve our own technique.

As long as you enjoy the night and have at least one/two dances with each other that is what matters.

So enjoy dancing with your partner but also enjoy the challenge of dancing with others.

Aug 18, 2010 It shows trust in your partner

by: Sarah

I think its acceptable. Although dancing is a very intimate experience it shows trust in your partner if you are comfortable with her desire to try dancing with someone else.

Aug 08, 2010 Your dance partner

by: Angel

I’m 100% agree with the last comment made. As long as there’s respect from both sides, there shouldn’t be nothing wrong with Dancing with other partners. But if either the Male or the woman doesn’t like his or her partner to dance with other ppl, that should be taking in consideration as well.

Jul 21, 2010 Dancing with other people

by: Eric

It depends. Usually a dance is just a dance and nothing more. I’ve danced with women that have significant others and I have a very good friend that dances with other guys. My only thing is that the guy treats her respectfully. If he gets too handsy and grabs her wrong, then I’ve got a problem. But I always treat my partners well and look out for them.

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By RB Mon Jun 9th 2014 at 4:54 pm  

Follow up question to this thread.

I have been taking Salsa with my wife. In class we all change partners every few minutes. I/we are ok with this. Its all training, we are all at the same level, and we are in it to have something to share and do together.

They often have dance parties, so it is a quasi-club type environment. And of course many very good dancers… where i am no where near. So I am a little uncomfortable when she is dancing with others (due to my less capable dancing, plus the personal intimacy), but at least I am there.

Then there is her going out with some single friends to the salsa club. I dont see or know whats up, and I feel very uncomfortable with this.

Why… salsa is a very sexy, intimate, and close couple orineted thing. Everything I read also supports this. Its not like going to a knitting club, or even to a normal night club.

I guess I am trying to figure out… am I wrong about sexy, intimate, and close couple orineted aspect and how this can conflict with married couple feelings.

By Jake Fri Oct 3rd 2014 at 3:30 pm  

Pick another night and go salsa dancing without your wife. If your wife gets jealous, maybe she will understand how you feel and will cut down on number of nights she goes out dancing with her single friends. If she does not get jealous, more power to you. Go out and have a good time. Life is short. And if you do go out a lot, and your dancing skills improve, it will be your wife who will be worried about letting you out by yourself.

By Pearl Sat Jul 19th 2014 at 10:17 pm  

should a husband’s salsa dance partner be someone in the same class as him and his wife.

By Roberto Thu Aug 19th 2021 at 5:07 am  

I’ve a serious problem with my partner about this situation.

We go social dancing together and she has 1 dance with me, then she feel have to change/rotate because it seems to be what other people want . My problem: is it so wrong if l enjoy dancing with her!? l would like to have many dance with my girlfriend before l feel warm, confident and ready to rotate. Shall l just go dancing alone? It feel very wrong and get upset, that l can’t dance with her. we arguing everytime and we are about to plit up over this.

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