More salsa dance etiquette

Here’s more about salsa dance etiquette.  I see this happen often during the free salsa lesson before the actual dance starts at salsa clubs, but it occurs on the dance floor just as well.     What am I talking about? I’m talking about the salseros who feel that they need to teach every salsera they dance with how to dance salsa. By the time the women gets to me in the rotation, they are usually wide eyed and shocked at how some people take salsa so seriously.  These women often get “yelled” at by that salsero and it takes away from all the fun.

At the same time the same thing can happen to a salsero. The woman may tell the guy how to lead when she herself  isn’t a good dancer!   Its the woman’s job to follow the lead no matter how good or bad the lead is.   If the guy doesn’t lead you to go somewhere, then don’t go there. Its not going to help the guy if you anticipate things and do things automatically.  If you follow the lead, then the only reason you didn’t go where he wanted you to go is because he didn’t give you a good lead. Its his job to figure it out and its your excuse to say “that’s where I felt you were leading me.”

Here’s a good rule of thumb.

Unless you are the dance instructor giving the lesson, or unless the other person asks you how to dance, don’t offer any advice. Just let them dance! Most people dance for health and to have fun and they are not aspiring to become a professional dancer.

If you need to tell the other person how to dance. It is better etiquette to ask if they want your advice.  Example: “Would you like me to give you a tip about ______?” (fill in the blanks)  Your feedback will be better received if the person receiving your advice actually wants it.

There are exceptions to this.. If you know something is dangerous where the other person can get hurt by doing the wrong move, by all means tell them.

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