How do I stop leading especially if the guy is a weak lead?
This is a great question and I think it is one of the hardest things for women to learn to overcome.
I think that learning individual style and great footwork patterns that are technically correct is a great way to start tackling this issue. The reason why I suggest this is that if your lead is not as strong of a dancer as you, that does not mean that you can’t have fun with him. Do your own footwork and body style until you receive a lead from him. Then you can do what he is leading when he is ready and all is well. One main suggestion that I want to stress it this: don’t get too carried away in your own dancing, that you don’t notice or respond to his leads because you do want to be connected with you lead at all times.
Another thing you might try is simply clearing your mind and really focusing on your dance partner’s leading. Even if he is not on what you consider “the beat” or if he is dancing a different style than you are familiar with, open your mind and truly follow and respond to what he is giving you in the dance. I like to think of this as mastering my following skills. To be able to smoothly dance with and have FUN with anyone on the dance floor. Now I am not saying that this isn’t challenging… Some dances just aren’t meant to be… but you may be surprised what can develop if you simply open your mind, smile at your dance partner and do your salsa the way you like while being very attentive to your partner.
Try it and let me know what happens!
For more information on the Salsa Connection art of leading and following check out this blog
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