Once I overheard a girl saying she never dances with people of her level in the nights, since she wants only good dancers because she wants to get better.

She asked me to dance a number of times, and I rejected her all the times. I will NEVER dance with this kind of people, since they are shame for who love to dance.

Love this topic. Let me preface by saying I am a beginner/intermediate dancer although I’m taking advanced classes. Not sure what that means!
First I’d like to give my two cents of men that might be on the blacklist. Actually I rarely put anyone on a blacklist but here are some tips:
1. Guys getting overly exicted (if you know what I mean) while dancing makes us ladies uncomfortable. Yes the dancing is wonderful and extremely exciting especially when you connect, but save it for the after party would ya?
2. Each guy I’ve danced with has totally different styles so once I finally feel like I’ve figured it out, I’m learning all over again. And a lot of times I can’t tell where they are trying to lead me so I do anticipate a move…probably the wrong one, but give some of us gals a break as it might be for a good reason that we are trying to anticipate your moves.
3. I’ve found from taking lessons, lots of guys seem to be on a totally different beat and have late/early timing and don’t allow me to finish. hmmm…This is most discouraging. I always try to see if there is something I could have done better but when I constantly feel like it just ain’t working then I won’t be going back. And I typically will give anybody a second chance.
4. What I love is guys that can tell that I need a little help who direct me. I’m so greatful for this because I will and do get it and it makes the experience much better. However most Latinos seem to want me to move my hips in a way I just don’t understand. Somebody explain…I thought I moved them well…geesh

Some tips for the ladies:
1. Ladies don’t say no. It takes a lot of courage to ask a beautiful gal to dance and you never, never know. I’m tall and I’ve danced with men a foot and a half shorter than me and it’s been wonderful. You might have to bend a little or help out but hey everything is about compromise. I have a friend who wouldn’t dance with a guy because he wasn’t “her type”…what? It’s dancing. They best way to learn and become proficient is to dance frequently and with many different partners.
2. I do agree with one guys comment about appearing to lack self confidence but I do find it helpful to let a guy know that I am a beginner or as I like to say “not too many tricks, I’m still learning” 🙂
3. Don’t dress like a slob or look like you just woke up. Spend a little time and effort and look cute and show some leg! It’s just dancing.

I will be the first to admit that I do put girls on a blacklist and it is not because they don’t dance well or are to cocky. It’s mainly due to them being a heavy follower. Don’t get me wrong, you do not have to be overweight to be a heavy follower. I have danced with some overweight women who move beautifully and are very sensitive my lead. However I have also danced with some very light weight women who make me feel like I have to throw them across to do a cross body lead. Salsa is suppose to be about lead and follow along with trusting your partner and communicating well with eachother. Not to workout my arms.

I’m a lead beginner and I had girls shun me off because I wasn’t good enough yet. This has only fueled my desire to be the best so I welcome the rejection. I don’t think I’m in a position to put anyone in the blacklist though. I just need to keep dancing with whomever will dance with me so I can get better.